Four warning signs of dating abuse
But you may never find out what was really going on.
For more signs of domestic abuse help and advice, go to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.
When you first met, you felt flattered by the attention your partner paid to how you look.
But as time goes by, the compliments have become few and far between, replaced by comments about how 'wrong' your look is – that top doesn't suit you, you're putting on weight, what's going on with your hair?
They tell you they are just taking care of you, but really, they are checking up on you, and keeping you on a leash that will just get shorter and shorter.But your partner immediately throws cold water on your plans, telling you all the ways that things would go wrong, or that it's a bad idea – or they start a completely unrelated argument just to burst your bubble.In future, you gradually find yourself not sharing your ideas and successes with them, because you know you won't get a positive reaction.Soon, your partner steps up the pressure to 'be careful' with money.But somehow, it seems like it's always you who has to cut back, earn more and stop spending.
The irony is, an abuser can even make you feel guilty for their own bad behavior – they got drunk because you 'upset them' or 'stressed them out', or you're just 'being jealous' over their flirting.